HOH??

I have trouble with the term HOH or Head of Household. To me, it seems to designate the person who runs the house and handles all the small details of everyday life. That would ideally be a housekeeper (grin) but in our case it's me. Lash of course handles all of that at his condo when he's living at his job, but I don't think that's what was meant when the term originated. (BTW, I wonder who invented it.)

I don't think of Lash that way, but rather as the head of our family or - since it's now just the two of us - of our marriage. We have redefined our roles as husband and wife and, when we call each other by those names, they are rich in the complexities of that redefinition. The name Husband now includes overtones of his dominance, authority and protection as well as his roles as disciplinarian, provider and lover. When he calls me "Wife", I feel obedient, submissive, feminine, protected, loved and sometimes spanked. It has added levels of depth to our relationship but has also simplified many things. Since this is a busy day for me, I think I'll postpone further explanations until another time.