I like to read posts and comments by:
1. People who have some experience with a DD partnership, who are thoughtful about their relationship, always striving to learn and grow, keeping in mind what's important to them as a couple.
2. Newcomers, who are trying out different approaches, feeling their way along this journey, not always getting it "right" but sincerely trying to deepen their knowledge and experience.
3. People who are struggling - within themselves, with a partner who is just not "getting it", with loneliness, sadness, hectic lives, irritating relatives, children, illness, jobs and all the real life difficulties.
4. People who share their playful spanking adventures, go to spanko gatherings, write fun and erotic fiction, make me laugh, ask interesting questions and keep it light.
5. People who just pop in to comment but always say something helpful or positive.
6. People who live a different form of TTWD, who delve into areas where I can't (or won't) go, who dare to live their dreams and desires.
7. People who share the joys and sorrows of their everyday lives so that we can know each other better.
And what I don't like?
1. Blogs that describe what seems like abuse.
2. Blogs that are all drama and no insight.
3. One-size-fits-all comments like: "I'd like to spank your ass." No kidding?
4. Blogs that "ick" me out. I have a pretty high tolerance, but I do draw the line.
5. Blogs written in hard-to-read fonts. My age is showing!
I'd love to hear what other readers like, dislike and want to read about.
18 comments:
Oooh! fun! Ive actually been thinking about a post like this but I didn't want to offend anyone. I am off to the store now, but I'm going to ponder this for a bit longer and come back with a good list.
p.s. I was so excited when you not only returned to blogland, but found my blog and became one of my readers!
Hello Meow! I sat there at the computer trying to tick off items on your list hoping I wasn't going to be deleted from your blogroll; I don't seem to fit any of your pluses, but checking your "no-no" list, I don't think I have any ticks on that list either; OH DEAR! I must be just plain boring, but hope our friendship will save me from the axe.... xxxxxx
Meow, There really are so many new blogs and they just keep coming. I think you are right, that you have to pick carefully what you want to spend your time on or you will be overwhelmed. I think your list is about the same as mine. I most enjoy the funny and insightful. I read positive things, but I also want people to be real about their lives. I also keep a few non-kinky blogs in my reader.
Meow,
I have my own list. I think my favorite place to read is one where the blogger has the time to answer their comments. I think we really get to know each other that way.
Hugs,
PK
First Mate, I'll be waiting to read what you have to say!
Daisy, You fit all of them! You're experienced, honest, open, loving, insightful, funny and share so much!
Ally, I like to keep things positive, but appreciate that others need to share when things are going badly, too. I use RSS feeds for non-kinky and Google Reader for kinky so that I don't get mixed up. (grin)
PK, I like the give and take, too. I'm trying to get back into remembering who's who and sometimes have to go back to read their old posts to remind myself. Senior moments!
Lots of things that I thought of reading this post and the comments...
** ours really isn't a DD relationship, and hasn't been for a number of years -- still we somehow fit in the realm of all of this.
** I find that, as I get older, I am less far-ranging in what I choose to read regularly.
** I've been through so many iterations of "blog roll management" that I have pretty well come around to the point where I just don't manage it much anymore. People get themselves on the lists (His or "ours") and then I tend to just leave them there. It doesn't feel important to me to use the blog roll to make statements anymore. I think Blogger and readers in general have made that easier. The ones I really notice come to the top of the list, and that works for me.
** PK's comment about comments and responding to comments hit a nerve. I tend to choose to spend time leaving comments on other blogs rather than responding regularly on my own. My own blog comment responses tend to happen when someone says something that gets me thinking.
swan
Swan, Luckily, there are many flavors in the DD, D/s, M/s, BDSM community and probably far more that I've been able to explore. As I edited my blogroll, (I guess I never thought of it as a statement but as a convenience.) I was sad to see so many that were dormant or private or abandoned. We move on, come and go, like the rest of the world.
Meow, I agree with you about hard to read fonts. There are great blogs out there that I simply can't make out!
Hugs,
Hermione
Meow, I guess your lists of Yays and Nays are very close to my own. I tend to read and comment when I respect the author, when I want to support a new blogger, when I am amused. My own blogroll is pretty much for my own convenience, and while I don't update it that often, I do try to get newer bloggers on there to help them get traffic. When I have commented a few times and there is no response, it feels rude, and I don't bother to comment again. I LOVE 'talking' with my commenters...that dialogue is really the best part of blogging for me! Sara
Sara, I agree that responding to comments is very important. It makes commenters know they have been heard and gives us a chance to bring up new ideas through dialogue. I always see new points of view from commenters! Meow
Hi Meow,
I found your blog through another blog I follow...you commented on a post she wrote about being submissive.
P.S. I just started blogging at the end of April.
Thanks for stopping by, Kitty. I'll be sure to check out your blog. I'm still catching up on all the new ones since I got back to blogging.
Hi Meow, that is a very good and sensible list :) i hope im one of the ticks on your plus list :).
I agree with PK - I like to read blogs that answer comments. The very first blog i read was Finding Sara and my list has grown from there. I eventually get around to answering comments - just over a weekend i have no computer access so commonds on my posts on a Friday dont get replies until Monday.
And I agree with Hermione too.
I think blogging is so important to us, is way to openly discuss all our hopes and fears, our trials, get advice and support, a heads up or a pat on the back.
I cant wait to read more from you
love and hugs xxx
Thank you for the mention Meow, I've really enjoyed reading your blog and your comments on my humble posts. I would have commented more if I'd have worked out how to do it sooner!
I know I'm a few days late on this but I just wanted to say that this was such a helpful post Meow.
It really made me think about what I am drawn to in a blog (and the odd little things that push me away). Thanks for putting this one up!
nice blog
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