Last week I posted about a problem with our maintenance/reminder/stress relief spankings. After being out of town and then not feeling well, we finally got a chance - yesterday and today - to try out some new techniques. Lash used only his hand both days and interspersed spanking with rubbing and talking. I was able to be much more relaxed and, as I relaxed today, the tears came. This was a wonderful feeling and helped relieve the stress and anxiety that always seem to lurk beneath the surface. The spankings still hurt but it was something that I could absorb and recognize as an act of love. I could be present and engaged instead of withdrawn and tense as I had been before. That made all the difference. I think we're on the right path and will continue to explore.
PS: CD at Cultivated Discipline and Chloe at She Obeys have joined in the conversation about where we all fit into this blogging world. I'm enjoying everyone's point of view!
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Spanking Meow has been an evolving process. When Meow first said she wanted
a serious spanking-to and through tears-my first reaction was negative.
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10 comments:
I'm so glad to hear that this technique is helping and working for you both!
Big Hugs,
kitten
Very cool...really really nice, in fact,that you are trying different things and finding out what works for YOU! I know that must feel good!
Meow: It's good to hear the stress relief thing is now working for you. And don't worry about your posts not being interesting. We enjoy you sharing how you figure out what works for the both of you.
That was a very good post. And if you want to post about watching TV some night, that's OK too. It's interesting to have people share their lives.
And the men shaving thing will be my next post. My guidelines are when the hits drop below 100 a day, I go for a new topic.
FD
Meow,
You are so lucky to have a man that cares so much about you.
I have yet to cry from a spanking and it has been eleven months. Oh Wil is great as discipline I just can't release those tears. I have been close but so far no luck.
I know someday when I am ready to truly let go I will get there. I am glad that Lash took the time to bring you to tears. You are very lucky indeed!
It took me awhile to be able to cry from spankings too, but it's easier now. I don't cry every time, for sure, but sometimes I cry a little, and sometimes, like last time, I cry A LOT! And that is a wonderful catharsis. If I focus on crying, I can't at all. talking helps us more than anything, too! Thanks for the post!
When I am disappointed in myself, feel I have let myself or Davey down, and am feeling really bad/guilty about something, Davey always spanks me to tears...he begins gently, telling me how I have let myself down; its the words more than the spanking which totally causes me to break down; but he then delivers a sound spanking too, just to help the lesson sink in! Afterwards, as he snuggles me tight to him, I sob my heart out until I feel washed clean again. It is exhausting yet exhilarating, and I am left refreshed, renewed, loved and knackered all at the same time, hahaha!
I am so glad you are finding out what works for you, and how you are discovering it! God bless you and yours. xxxxxxx Daisy xxxxxxxx
I'm so happy Meow, happy it's working, it must feel good for you both.
Have a good weekend.
Love to yo both.
Ronnie
xx
Kitten, We did it this way again today and I feel so much better.
Sara, It feels good that we were able to talk about it and find an alternative to what we were doing - and I love the different feel to the spankings!
FD, Lately we've been watching old episodes of Six Feet Under, Nero Wolfe and Eureka (via Netflix) - and new episodes (via iTunes) of CSI (me) and NCIS (Lash). But I probably won't post about it!
Janet, I feel blessed every day to have Lash. We had lost each other before DD. I usually cry more from the emotional content of a spanking rather than the pain. I cry during punishment because I've disappointed myself and Lash and I cry sometimes during other spankings when I'm feeling stressed out. Sometimes the tears don't come until afterward when he's holding me.
Elle, I'm like you, it gets easier to cry as we continue spanking. Sometimes I get moist eyes and a little sniffly and sometimes I get a big catharsis.
Daisy, My hardest crying has begun even before the punishment started because I felt so guilty and bad about what I'd done. Then to be able to cry it all out in his arms afterward is such a blessing.
Ronnie, It does feel great. You two have a good weekend also!
Hugs to all, Meow
Hello Meow! I love that you've found such a theraputic (did I spell that right?) side to this. The depth in relationships is staggering. Sometimes it takes such work, but when it works it works.
Btw I really enjoy your blog.
Grins and Giggles
Jennie
Jennie, Thanks for stopping by! I agree that the depths we are finding in our marriage are amazing! Meow
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