Mrs M asked about privacy issues in one of her comments. Since we're empty nesters, the issue of children doesn't come up, and our house is quite private. But........ when we're in the condo where Lash lives part-time we worry about the neighbors. Lash thinks one of them is a rookie cop (or in training?) so we really don't want him to think there's abuse going on.
We usually turn on all the loud appliances and fans before we start and retire to the bedroom which is over our garage stall. At one time, we searched for quiet implements, but Lash prefers the original pervertible - his own hand. We tried a loopy johnny and a silicone spoon which were both pretty quiet, but not as satisfying for us as flesh on flesh. The problem from my point of view is feeling a little inhibited about making noise. I'm not usually very loud, but I like to feel free to sob loudly if I need to and that hasn't happened in the condo.
We all have certain situations where privacy is impaired: visiting relatives, children in the house, hotel rooms or nosy neighbors combined with thin walls. Any suggestions from the more experienced? Implements? Techniques? Alternatives to spanking?
Curious, Meow
8 comments:
Actually, training yourself (with Lash's help) to take a spanking in silence can be tons of fun for both of you and open up all sorts of new possibilities for fun. You know, mind over matter!!!!! And additional swats or restraint or another hated implement if you don't comply...
But make sure you find plenty of time to just be YOU, too! That's certainly of equal importance!
Hugs!
Thanks, Tiggs, I've always been nearly silent during a spanking and have been training myself - with Lash's help (grin) - to let out more emotion and express myself. It's interesting to learn what each person has to overcome and what lessons we each need to learn.
I hope Lash doesn't read the "hated implements" part. I am trying to find the ME in all this. I am naturally stoic, but is there a wild woman in there? I hope so. Meow
Meow,
I'm like you. I need to learn to make more noise and release emotions - very difficult for me. But that doesn't solve your problem. I like the belt and its not as loud as some things. But I think just letting the neighbors see how very happy you are with each other is one key. They would be less likely to think there is abuse if they do hear anything.
I think all you are doing is fine most people are thinking of themselves and what they are doing anyway. Keep enjoying yourselves.
Hugs,
PK
The more silent implements are usually the ones that hurt the most....so thinking of you, I am not going to name the one we discovered...its beyond human endurance!!
Hugs, xxxxxxxxxxxxx
PK, It's nice to know I'm not the only one who needs to "loosen up" a little.
Daisy, Thanks for not mentioning the unmentionable implement!
Peace, Meow
Lol,
We all come from different places in life don't we? Here I want to invest in a gag to lower the decibles to a socially - and hotel friendly level, while you want to let the wild woman out.
I know it must be possible to take one of these in silence or at least without the screaming but I haven't had the necessary consistency required to train myself to reach that point.
'Sigh' I am having 'married woman envy' again,,,:)
P
Hello Meow,
Daisy and I both know of impared privacy. Our most private time was on her second visit, we rented a cabin. Very isolated but we did have folks driving by. Luckily they were on 4 wheelers heard them ages before they came. LOL
Gee, I am not sure what "unmentionable" impliment Daisy was talking about.....
xo
Davey
Meow, thanks for this post it was great to read others thoughts on the matter.
A little like you and another commenter on your post, I too have problems with releasing completely or loosening up as you mention enough to let everything sink in.
I am simply just someone who doesn't cry very much in general, (you know I am truly upset if I am crying) and therefore I hardly ever cry during or after a spanking.
I can take spankings pretty well, not making too much sound etc. However if it is a particularly painful one, you will hear it! Not from the noise my husband is making, but from me thrashing around and saying repeatedly "I'm sorry it won't happen again" lol.
When we have not been able to spank at home for whatever reason, there has been times when my husband would take me out in the car somewhere and do it.
Although in some ways it is a sexy idea (to me), I actually don't like it and we rarely do it because of this.
It is way too risky, what if someone was to see?
Not to sound too crude, but I would rather give a blow job while out in public rather than be spanked - weird or not?
Of course we always try and find somewhere secluded, with very little chance of being caught. However it is just not for me, and it is very hard to find some place where people aren't these days!
Thanks for the post again Meow, and great idea about turning on all electrical appliances along with different implements (silicone spoon)...
Mrs M x
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